DON’T BLAME PASTOR FATOYINBO – BLAME THE THORNS
I saw the video too. I watched it once though, just like every other content consumer on social media across Nigeria, Africa and the world at large. At the moment, the social media and the entire Nigeria is divided between COZA(church) vs POZA (Law Firm), pulpit vs flesh, celebrities vs priests, common sense vs spirituality, judgment vs freedom. Argument and counter argument about rape and morality, the last two weeks in Nigeria has been a situation where your today became your past that suddenly show up in your future.
Hundreds of confessions, allegation and counter allegation on sexual assaults and rape. Shocking revelations and testimonies from the society’s biggest role models and social media influcials. The rape acussation between Pastor Fatoyinbo of COZA and Busola Dakolo (wife to a famous Nigerian gospel artiste) tore the Nigerian community apart like the veil in the temple. I also have something to say too. Before we settle down and get carried away on social media by the latest blockbuster in town – “Big Brother Naija 2019”, before the show go viral with snippets of sexual escapades and underblanket groping and infamous pornographic shower hour that our hypocritical mind is seriously looking forward too.
When someone claims he’s given his life to Jesus Christ, I am always of the opinion that he had only submit an aspect of himself that he understood to Christ. Somehow there are many things we don’t know about ourselves or the reasons why we do certain things in a certain way even when we know it is wrong, or why we behave or react in a certain manner that is unusual and unexpected despite the fact that we’re born again. Some issues are bigger than us.
What makes us “who” and “what” we are is not just about yesterday or last month or last year.It is a culmination of years of manipulated conflict – of pain and happiness, success and failure, disappointment and trust.They subconsciously influence our everyday decisions, experience and judgement of what is right or wrong because what is wrong to you may be right to me especially that many Christians think they know God more than others not knowing that their understanding of God is based on their opinion of how God is related to issues that has defined their perception of life. So we don’t “really” know ourselves because our perception of what and who we are is limited in most cases to what we think we do right everyday and when we do “wrong” we blame it on the devil, (and of course it’s the devil responsibility to produce evil anyway) however it is still the same you definitely through what the bible call- Flesh.
Man is a complex being. There is more to us in our DNA and in the subconscious so much that if for instance I ask you “Who are you?” In most cases you are more likely to tell me “What you are” and not “Who you are”. You see? because we base the understanding of ourselves on what we feel we do right everyday and on our daily perception or definition of right and wrong, sin and righteousness.
The shocking truth is we don’t really know ourselves, because our real identity is not in the habit or patterns we have erroneously formed over the years – preaching every Sunday doesn’t necessarily make you a true Pastor, so also attending every church service doesn’t necessarily make you a true christian, join the choir, youth pastor etc all these activities could be done to unconsciously survive the deep rooted raging issues of subconscious addiction because we are in constant battle with “The Flesh” and “The Flesh” has its own desires, needs and wants which sometimes manifest through an abnormally strong cravings called addiction.
Most Pastors have unresolved conflict with their flesh before embracing the pulpit and at the same time have not fully surrender to Christ.In between the lines of this conspiracy, they share their time between “the thorn” and “the pulpit.” They mount the pulpit and are fortunate to grow ultra modern churches with hundreds of followers. Believe you me they know the words but the dual-battle is also real.They unconsciously coordinate dual personality between the pulpit (escape medium) and the flesh (the reality).
Trust me, the flesh can be addicted to anything – knowledge, fame, greed, materialism, power and in some cases with religious leader – Sex. Most Pastors and religious leaders are unconscious that their weaknesses are expressed through improvised addiction enshrined within the confinement of the church through the sneaky bastard called LUST! Flesh doesn’t respect status as it operates through weaknesses which soon grow to become an addiction. To change or substitute the environment of operation will not demean the destructive effectiveness of addiction. Not even marriage can save you from lust.
The Flesh is so dominating that even Paul in his ministry had to cry out to God to take away a tiring particular weakness he tagged “Thorn in his Flesh” from his life. I don’t know how long he has been fighting the “dual personality battle” but he’s smart enough to know that it is Christ alone who can take on flesh, fight it, then subdue its dominion on our behalf so that we can claim victory over sin and flesh through His blood. For no one in this world has struggled and fought agonisingly against sin to the extent of pouring out his blood but Jesus did. (Heb.12-4)
One of the reasons why, in my opinion, we are battling with addiction and secret identity doubt is probably because we are trying to help ourselves and save ourselves the embarrassment that our secret dirty habits might cause us. We have battles, we have weaknesses. Unfortunately, we cover our weaknesses to fake strength.To acknowledge our limitations, total weakness and vulnerability will assist us to seek bigger needed support system not just from God but from appropriate institution. “For by flesh shall no man be justified.” An interesting response to such issue in the bible was God ‘s response to Paul “…when you are weak, then I am strong.” Now wait a minute! Could this be the reason why Pastor Fatoyinbo preaches about Grace? Is this the verse that grant “predator” Preachers the audacity to sexually molest and assault female church members? Even when beautiful single ladies in the church throw themselves at Pastors willingly?
I really don’t think so because the anger against Pastor Fatoyinbo of COZA is probably not against his church but probably against the fact that there is “predatory sexual pattern” that’s unbecoming of a respectable man who is holding an office of “high priest” who should know better even if sexual lust is his weakness and even if women and ladies throw themselves at him. God will always love sinners and hate the sin. Hate it or like it, God will always love Pastor Fatoyinbo and even Pastor Tim Omotosho who was charged for sexual misconduct here in South Africa.
It really doesn’t make sense that God will still support us when we embarrassed him. God has the capacity to become strong and effective when your vulnerability depends on HIM and not when we abuse our position of power to resolve our weaknesses. Unfortunately some African christians always think they must be strong all the time and everyday for God to like and bless them or rather when we express our emotional vulnerability and recklessness to God then God will be very angry at us and then punish us. God may not be happy when we do wrong but his love for a sinner supersedes his desire to punish a sinner for not standing tall in moments of temptation.
When you fall in bad, the best thing Pastor Fatoyinbo could do is to run to a good God for forgiveness like the disgraced biblical Samson and restitute with victims affected by his behaviour without even going to court. There is no grace for the powerful. In most cases, God isn’t necessarily about those who are able to save themselves but those who are willing to trust and depend on him for help and that is the true grace. Only the weak benefit from the strength of Christ in the moment of vulnerability and emotional recklessness. You are not alone in the journey of righteousness, cry out to God the more. You are not a sinner because you sin, you sin because you’re a sinner.
And to our women who are battling the scare of rape and sexual molestation, you don’t have to spent the rest of your life worrying about the life you gave to God. Most times it is not your fault. It’s hard, yes, but mankind’s fate is hanging between the two thieves on the cross. On the left you see your “past” – the dishonoured and condemned while on your right you see your future – the remorseful with hope for redemption which earned him the saviour and paradise. In the middle is the “Grace” himself – Jesus the Messiah, HE is always between your past and your future.
For as long as every party involved are willing to seek strength and supporting counselling through God and appropriate institution, God is ready to be strong for everyone. There is no broken vessel.
ABOUT THE WRITER
Dan Akinlolu is a Nigerian born South Africa base digital media executive. He is the CEO of Grey Consortium (digital ad agency) and founder of MafrikTV.He is based in Randburg, South Africa.Follow his IG @officialmrdan
By: DAN AKINLOLU